Tuesday, December 28, 2010

All in a year!

A year at a glace!
Each picture is a moment in time that is forever safe in my heart. Every smile. Every family and friend is a touch in our lifes and we are truely blessed.

Happy 2011!


Monday, December 27, 2010

The finale of 2010

We woke today to a belated White Christmas. I have to say that after last year, I was none too pleased. I had seen enough snow in one winter to last me for the rest of my life! But the kids were happy and we had no place to go so....it is what it is. And if it is what it is only once this winter, I will not complain and be very very happy!

Our last blizzard of 2010!

I woke this morning to this at my back door! The picture isn't really good a the angle I took it at but it came easily almost up to my tush!

At least SOMEONE likes the snow!









And maybe someone doesn't! (although it was probably more me and my want of a picture that put that puss on her face! Gotta love the teenage years!)
And at the end of the day, for all our hard work and effort, we were graced with this!

Saturday, December 25, 2010

Ho ho ho!

Just some quick pics of yesterday and today. Presents are opened, family on their way home, tummies are full and my jammies are calling my name...........

Delaney and Todd making the last final batch of Delaney sugar cookies yesterday!



Heading off to Grandmoms house on Christmas Eve (aren't they just a happy bunch? Almost gives me goosebumps with all the excitment they are showing!)


Opening gifts.....



Christmas morning......






On that note.....Christmas jammie and cookies.....here I come!
Hope your day was full of love, laughter, turkey and lots of Ho ho ho!
MERRY CHRISTMAS!

Thursday, December 23, 2010

Merry Christmas!


Hope your day is full of all the love and laughter of family and friends!

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Thursday, December 16, 2010

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

The lessons my kids learn

Megan was in one of her chatty moods yesterday. That can range from what someone was wearing to who likes whom in school to some fight that broke out in the hallway to what was for lunch. And usually all in one sentence! After the 1st 5 minutes of her chatter, one tends to zone off while saying absently "um hummm" now and then. Usually I am thinking of my grocery list or what to do on tomorrows lessons or how long it will be before we are home and I can find my jammies or when the end of the story will come! I love the girl but there are times she should not be within 5 feet of sugar!

As she was going on and on about....well....honestly I lost track of what exactly brought up this chatter.....she mentioned something that caught me ear. I paused her and brought her back a few steps! She was casually mentioning something about what one of her friends was doing during 'lock down drills'. I asked her what lock down drills were.

Our expressions were similar. Me, confused and not understanding exactly what this was and her, confused and not understanding how I could NOT understand what it was. This obviously was part of her normal day and I should know that. I didn't.

She goes on to tell me that it is a drill in case someone should break the outside barrier of their security and get into the school. *seriously!?*

They are to cover the classroom door window with paper and hide in an assigned spot in the classroom quietly together with desks surrounding them until they announce it over. Each door in the school is to be checked and no one can move till they are.

I asked how they thought the person would not know they were in there if the door was locked on the inside. She said all the doors are locked on the inside. That you can exit but not enter. Every...single...door in the school is locked. The lunchroom. The learning rooms. The gym. And this was normal for her! She honestly could not understand why I would think otherwise.

So my kids are going to school on complete lock down and do drills that leave them sitting on the floor in silence for an hour but they don't have the time to teach cursive writing or how to properly take notes! She might not know how to sign her checks to pay bills but she will certainly know how to survive a gunman! A skill every parent hopes for their kids!

I wonder how far that will get her on her resume!?

Add in that I am currently in phone meetings over a book she is studying in her language arts class.....The Hunger Games. This is the clip they showed my 13 year old daughter.......


They show clips like this in a 7th grade english class and then wonder why they have to have lock downs!

THIS is what public schools are coming too?

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Oh the fun!

Ok is this not cool!?


This was Delaney's science project today. I think I got more excited than she did. I am still here playing and she is watching Sponge Bob!

Just an FYI, cause I know you are dying to know what it is.....The color tabs are kind of like those fizzy tabs you use for eggs at Easter. And you put them in room temp milk. Once they settle you dip a q-tip in dish soap and hold it in the milk/color mix. It just explodes with color. Ok...I just spent a good 15 min "ooooooooo"ing over a kindergartners science experiment.

But it was FUN!

And I obviously need a life!

And speaking of needing a life, my son called home yesterday to ask if Dad could come pick him up at school. He was calling in the bathroom and the phone was breaking up but basically it came down to him wanting to get picked up....because he wanted to get picked up. He wasn't sick. He just wanted to come home. Upon digging more I find out that his girlfriend had missed the bus and was home too.

So. My silly thinking-with-his-wrong-head-teenage-son called his mother to ask me to call his Dad to get out of work, drive across town and pick him up at school so he could come home and go over his girlfriends house and "hang".

*insert dead silence cricket sound effect here*

I shall leave it up in the air on what came out of that phone call!

To cap off, I am on the run to clean up, change diapers, finish work, start dinner and maybe bake another round of Christmas cookies before heading off to bell choir practise.

OR....I might play with the fizzy tab milk experiment some more. We shall see which one is calling me harder............

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Angels among us

With the upcoming holiday, I have to say I haven't felt much like posting. I am not sure what to say which is totally unusual since I pretty much put down what I would say to myself and you all know I talk to myself all the time! I guess I have not been having such wonderful personal conversations with myself much lately. At least not good enough to write about!

I think this holiday is hitting home more than last year. The loss of my grandparents has left me feeling alone. Last holiday it didn't seem to bother me so much. I am not sure what makes this one more so.

I hear a song and remember it being played while decorating the Christmas tree. I smell cookies and remember making sugar cookies with Grams. I remember watching Charlie Browns Christmas with my brother while in our Christmas jammies. I see a picture and it makes me sad instead of making me smile. Usually I tend to push on and remember the good times in everything I do. We cannot control was was or is. We can only hold the memories to our hearts and move ahead. Sitting and feeling sad will not get one anywhere. Life is too full of possibilities to sit and sulk over something we cannot control.

This year seems to have me thinking of my own future. I think Todd being in the hospital last month really opened these doors. I had no one to rely on. Reality was here that those who I took for granted were no longer there for me. I was alone and had to make decisions that I was not used to making. There is no family here. Had it not been for a friend of mine, I would have had to handle that completely alone. I reached out to those I thought would be there and they were not. It made me be an adult that I guess did not want to be. Although no adult, even, should feel alone in the world. Decisions is one thing. Decisions alone is another.

It made me realise that my grandparents not only relied on me to be their life. But I relied on them too. Over the last few years we have lost several of Todd's family too and it saddens me that the table becomes smaller each year. Gone are the days when we had to add tables to have enough room. Now we take away chairs.

My father in law died shortly after my grandfather and I find I miss him probably just as much. He was a good man. Full of laughter and my companion in a family full of crazy people! He was my partner in crime! Todd's uncle followed shortly after along with another aunt. These were the people sitting at my Christmas table. And now their memory is all we have.

Well enough of me feeling sorry for what cannot be. We will make our own family holiday memories. We will enjoy those that fill the table this year and bask in the glory of their laughter and love. For we know not what will come tomorrow and today is the best blessing we can have.

Merry Christmas and God bless to those in our lives who are missing. May we know their spirits are with us all! And may we enjoy those that are still there to make our lives wonderful!

Monday, December 6, 2010

Finding her way

Lately, I have noticed that Megan is going through some issues with her friends. Her texting is more limited and sleepovers not as many. It concerned me that I did not have a houseful of giggly girls this summer. NOT that I was complaining but it was certainly noticeable. I had, at one point, sat down and chatted with Megan about this. I was becoming concerned. Was there problems? Was she depressed? What was going on?

Megan tells me that her friends are getting on her nerves and mentioned a few issues. Basically it narrowed down to what will be change. Megan and her friends are 13 and in 7th grade. I remember that time like yesterday. It is around this age that they are all trying to find their way. They are struggling with peers and values and hormones and wants. This was the time in their lives where change was going to happen and they would soon be choosing their group of friends that would carry them into high school. Gone were the days where they all were friends and laughed over Barbies, tag and bodily function noises. Now it was about picking friends and interests and which group they would find themselves in.

You know what I am talking about. In my time there were the druggies, the jocks, the nerds, the 'in' group, the troublemakers, the class clowns, etc etc etc. Now the groups branch off with different names but they are still pretty much the same. Earlier years you had your bestest friends but you went to school with all your classmates. You got invited to all your classmates parties and sometimes played with a classmate that wasn't your bestest friend. But come 13, they are choosing groups. Their interests and family values will come into play now. One will not happen to see a band member hanging with a cheerleader. Or the sports girl hanging with the artist. And it is about now this is coming to pass.

Megan's issues with her friends point this out to me and we talked about this. I am a bit concerned as Megan tends to be a follower. She is not the type to easily break away from the stream and do her own thing. If she gets into the wrong group of friends, it will not make for easy high school years to come! I can only pray that our lessons and values will guide her like they did Ryan.

In truth, I don't like many of Megan's friends either. I find most to be rude, spiteful and mean. To others and to even those within their group. They are allowed to do things that we do not allow Megan to do and I suspect that has a lot to do with why there is less sleepovers here. I began to wonder about my own judgement in parenting and was I too strict? And I prepared myself for what I thought was just the current way of teenage girls today! But this weekend was a reality for me...........

Megan found on facebook an old friend from preschool. They had chatted some over the years as her mother is a teacher in our district and the girl would sometimes visit the school. But she goes to a school about two towns over. They had been chatting online for a few weeks and decided to get together this weekend. Todd and I both thought this was a good thing as we felt that finding a friend that is not friends with her friends (did you stay with that) would be a good thing right now. And because they were from a different district there would be no influence from her friends on this girl. They were free to just.......be.

This weekend began with the mother requiring us to contact her to confirm details on the weekend. Something unheard of with Megan's friends! They arrived on Saturday and mom came in to chat which was nice as it had been some time since I had seen them too. The girl arrived with cell AND a computer which had internet access. But they were never taken out! Another thing unheard off with Megan's friends! If Megan's friends are not on the cells, they are on the computer chatting. So much so that it becomes rude! And access to the internet would never be allowed in Megan's room! These two laughed and played outside and were up to 4am. She sat at our table and easily chatted over dinner which told me she was used to family meals at her home. She goes to church and is honor roll and sings in the choir. I went to bed and knew that the girls were ok and I didn't have to sit up and watch to make sure they weren't trying to do something that they shouldn't! It was like night and day! A refreshing weekend!

When morning arrived, I began to think on the weekend. What made this girl different? Obviously my previous thoughts that all teenage girls today were the same was wrong. Then it hit me. This girl was different because this girl would never be part of Megan's current group of friends. She was overweight. Had some acne. Didn't have makeup on and nails painted. This girl would more likely than not become part of the music group in high school. Even, dare I say it, band! Megan's group of current school friends were going to branch off into one of two groups.....the troublemakers and the 'in' group. And there Megan sits between the two! She does not like the 'in' group. There is no future cheerleader in her at all nor does she want to be a 'mean' girl and greatly protests at the very thought! And she struggles with the rudeness of the rest of the group. She understands that these girls are going to get into trouble. And she does not like the rudeness they portray. And so Megan is struggling to find her way in a group of friends that will most likely not be her BFFs to come.

And I feel and understand her issues. Megan, is by nature, shy. Finding friends will not come easy for her. She is very much like me. So turning away friends whom you grew up with since childhood and going off to make new ones will be no easy task for her. I pray that this weekend was a light for her too and that a good friendship will continue to grow. No, this girl does not go to Megan's school but this friendship can open up possibilities of others around her. Teach her to look outside of her group and that there are good kids out there whom she can call friend. And I pray this friendship continues to grow as I feel it would be a very good thing.

If nothing else, this weekend shined a new light of what can be and maybe even help Megan find her way!

Friday, December 3, 2010

Don't roll your eyes at ME like that!

We had just come back from grocery shopping and I was busy putting things away while Delaney is sitting on the floor and chatting with me.

I mentioned to her that we were going some place special tomorrow.....Dairy Queen (which has an awesome indoor play area) for lunch. AND we were going to pick up her friend Alyssa to take with us whom she hasn't seen allllllllllllll week long!

Delaney yells and jumps around the kitchen and then stops and asks seriously if they can anything they want to get. I tell her that it is her fun day and she can get anything she wants. So she says she wants to get a tattoo and a bouncy ball from the machines there and "you can't roll your eyes like that" (as she shakes her finger at me and demonstrates how I must roll my eyes at her when she asks for the 1000000000.1 time for ANOTHER bouncy ball)

The whole attitude and eye roll made me bust up laughing. Which in turn makes her do it again and again.

After the laughter dies down she says to me, "Mom, ain't I really cute!?"

Yes, Delaney you really are. And you KNOW it!

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Say What!?

So Sunday morning, after overstuffing ourselves on turkey and pumpkin pie for several days, we waddled off to church. We headed off not only because there surely must be some sin in over indulging in thanksgiving fare but mainly because Megan was playing in chimes choir and we could not hit the snooze button and roll over with the covers over our heads. Which was totally our want. But I do believe that somewhere that just might be a sin. So we dragged our lazy, tired, turkey filled bodies off to fill a pew Sunday morning.

As we sat there trying to look remotely aware of our surroundings, I noticed that the adult choir was up on the alter with smiles on their faces. I passingly assumed I missed some funny joke from the pastor and tried to stay focused better. Delaney was sitting up in the front row with Megan and the chimes choir and Ryan was not there at all as he was sleeping over a friends house. Todd was up in the choir on the alter. So that left me, alone, to sit in the pew and listen. It was no easy task. I was dreaming of turkey left overs and pumpkin pie!! But the smiles on the choirs face kept my attention.

In our church, during the middle hymn, the younger children head downstairs for their choir rehearsal and some Sunday school time. I got up and went up to the front pew to get Delaney and noticed that she had made herself totally at home. There she laid, in a dress mind you, on her back with her head propped on her toy bag, a book in her hand, one leg crossed over the other and reading to herself.

(Let's be honest...she was only doing what we WISH we could do!)

So I grabbed up her things, packed them away, gave everyone a 'Gee I am so sorry' smile and ushered her off to choir.

Later I mentioned to Todd about how she was totally relaxing during service and figured that was what had the smiles on the choirs faces.

I only wish it were that.

It seems that Delaney, having seen some street dancers in Philadelphia on Friday, decided to break out into doing the worm in front of the alter! I couldn't see her and had no clue. She not only decided to practice her new worm dancing talent but thought that a few Russian leg rolls and upside down head spin attempts might be worth a try too!! In a dress. In front of the church.....choir....and Pastor! Totally and completely in her own little world and oblivious to the others watching her.

....Well....... if nothing else, she kept most of the turkey filled parishioners awake!

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